Melodie Yvonne Speaks On Learning Acceptance & Healing from Trauma

Article & video by Melodie Yvonne

INDIANAPOLIS, IN (April 4, 2021) – The following video includes a short talk with Melodie Yvonne about her experience with the loss of a friend’s child as well as learning acceptance & healing from trauma.

Video dialogue:

I want to say just a few words about what happened to my goddaughter because I’ve shown so much about myself by publishing my new book, I Do Heroin On The Train Line So You Don’t Have To: A Hitchhiker’s Guide To My Galaxie, but this incident isn’t included because this story isn’t mine as much to tell. The short of it is that my goddaughter was murdered at 2 1/2 years old, and buried in her Easter dress. The gentleman that did it was not a stranger, but someone very close to the family. March 21 was the 20 year anniversary of her death, and the gentleman that did it got released from prison 10 days later. He is now free.

I’m sharing this story now for two reasons. One, because a lot of you have messaged me, and shared your stories with me, and there’s a common thing that runs throughout. That common element that we all have is that generally if there’s been one traumatizing thing that’s happened there’s probably been multiple traumatizing things that have happened. And it’s not always about things that have happened specifically to a person physically.

Sometimes people are traumatized by the things that happened to the people around them that they love. Yes, I’ve talked about many things that happened to me in this book, but there are also all of the bad things that happened to the people I love that I don’t always mention, but that affected me. Deaths due to overdose and violence, addictions, and even natural disasters that affected my friends and family all because of the area that we were unlucky enough to live in. Things that were nobody’s fault.

Trauma can come from many different sources, and it’s important to understand that when someone is trying to heal. No matter how many things they’re having to get over or how many bad stories they tell you about themselves or where they came from it’s all the past. You have to be compassionate and non-judgmental to help someone else along the path of accepting themselves.
The second reason I’m bringing my story up is because I want to talk about forgiveness. It took me years to forgive the friend that did this. It took me years to understand that the guy I had known for years that murdered this innocent little baby didn’t do it himself. It was meth that did it.

There are some days that I don’t know if I have forgiven him, and I still have a hard time trusting people. And she was just my goddaughter. I can’t imagine if this had happened to my daughter. I can’t even begin to imagine the thoughts that live in my best friend’s head every day. As I sit here and cry some days I try to make myself stop because I can’t even imagine how his freedom feels to her.

So I guess in summary, if you want to help somebody get better you have to be kind and be prepared. If someone trusts you enough to open up to you the. Never judge them no matter what they say. Understand that the past is the past, and try really hard not to make that astounded judgmental face while they’re talking even though you probably don’t mean it.

And if you’re somebody that’s suffering from a whole butt ton of things and trying to get better please understand that a lot of people are there with you. I’m there with you. I’ve seen the icky faces of people that I’ve tried to open up to. I’ve been hurt by people that walked away because it’s just too much. Because I’m too much. But it gets better I promise. Don’t ever give up trying to open up. Bad things that happened to you do not make you a bad person, and if somebody’s meant to be in your life they will understand that.

It is not your fault if someone else is not strong enough to understand you. Don’t ever stop trying to be better and heal because eventually you will find the friends and family that will be there for you for real. And it’s true… families aren’t something that you’re born into. They’re something that you make from the people that truly love you that you meet along the way. So, never give up ❤

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Melodie Yvonne

Melodie Yvonne Ramey, owner, editor, & contributor at Photographic Melodie, grew up in the small southern Indiana town of North Vernon. She picked up her first camera at the young age of 5, and was immediately hooked. Every trip, even just to the local park, was turned into a fantasy scene of her own imagination that would later be turned into epic tales in word and photos.

Melodie spent her teen years learning from and mentoring under professionals such as Richard Young, John Sheckler, and The Grand Conundrum. She received an Associates of Applied Science in Visual Technologies majoring in Photography from Ivy Tech in 2002 after studying under acclaimed professors such as Hoosier photographer Darryl Jones, Jonathan Wilson, and many other masters in the field.

Melodie’s main focus has always been music photography. Growing up with photography and listening to amazing musicians inspired her dream to create visual images that made people feel the way they do when they hear the music. She wanted to help people SEE the music by capturing every magical moment of concerts that she could only dream about as she gazed into music magazines like Rolling Stone and Spin.

Melodie has done numerous jobs around the country ranging from working for bands to even being the official photographer on many southern Indiana Poker Runs. Her specialties are in nature, music, and candid event photography, as well as one of a kind photographic creations. Melodie published her first print book Photographic Memories: In the Beginning, a collection of poetry, in 2011, and has since published 2 more print works, Photographic Memories: Meet me in the Middle and Hoosier Heavens, her first photo book. Melodie currently acts as publisher, editor & lead contributor at Photographic Melodie and does freelance work with many other media outlets, venues, and artists.

Melodie says, “I started out with a Tweety bird camera and a dream and I never let go. I will always love photography and the vessel it has given me to share the images of my heart and mind with the world. I have found that every single person on this earth visualizes the world in very different ways. Some people are optimists, some are pessimists. Some people are daydreamers, and others keep their feet firmly planted on the ground. Photography allows me to show some of these different visualizations. It allows the rationalist to see that it’s okay to dream, it can show the monsters hidden in the dark, and it can show even the saddest of people that there is still joy in the world.”

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